Narcissistic Dysfunctional Family (Enabler, Golden Child, Scapegoat)
Each person’s role will depend on two things; what kind of grandiose image the narcissist is attempting to maintain, and what the family member can offer.
Roles in a Narcissistic Dysfunctional Family
In a narcissistic family dynamic, various roles often emerge as a result of the narcissistic parent’s behavior and the family’s attempt to cope with the dysfunction. It’s important to note that these roles are not fixed and can shift over time.
It’s important to recognize that these roles serve as coping mechanisms within the dysfunctional family system. Each role has its own challenges and can have long-term effects on an individual’s self-esteem, relationships, and overall well-being.
Breaking free from these roles and healing from the effects of narcissistic family dynamics often require professional support, therapy, and self-work.
Scapegoat
The scapegoat child is blamed for all family problems, criticized, and often subjected to emotional or verbal abuse. The scapegoat is made to bear the burden of the family’s dysfunctions and is typically the target of the narcissistic parent’s rage and scapegoating.
Golden Child
The narcissistic parent often favors one child, known as the golden child, who is praised and given preferential treatment. The golden child is expected to fulfill the narcissistic parent’s expectations and maintain the family image.
Enabler/Co-dependent Parent
The enabler or co-dependent parent supports the narcissistic parent’s behavior and often enables their actions. They may defend and cover up for the narcissistic parent, making excuses for their behavior or ignoring the abuse. The enabler may have low self-esteem and depend on the narcissistic parent for a sense of identity and validation
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