The quote “It’s not fun when the rabbit has the gun” symbolizes a reversal of power dynamics. In the context of toxic, abusive relationships with narcissists, it reflects what happens when the person who was once the victim (the rabbit) gains control, insight, or leverage over the narcissist (the hunter). Narcissists thrive on maintaining power and control, often using manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional abuse to dominate their victims. However, when the victim awakens to the narcissist’s tactics, sets firm boundaries, or leaves the relationship, the tables turn.

This shift is deeply unsettling for narcissists. They are used to being in charge of the narrative and exploiting their victims’ vulnerabilities. When the victim takes back their power—whether by exposing the narcissist’s behavior, cutting off their supply, or refusing to engage—the narcissist loses control and experiences a type of “narcissistic injury.”

For the narcissist, this reversal can feel like humiliation, triggering rage or desperation to regain control. The quote underscores the discomfort narcissists face when their manipulative tactics backfire, and the victim no longer plays their game. It’s a powerful reminder that healing and empowerment disrupt the abusive cycle, making it impossible for the narcissist to maintain their hold.